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The Problem with Independence Day

The problem with independence day is now we sit when we go to the park, which is nice; usually we are tired, the mamas, not the toddlers. So today I met my friend and the kids played and we sat. Cadman Plaza park was full of kids and nanny’s. The nanny’s sat, benches and benches full of nanny’s, some sat on the steps surrounding the plaza, and yes, here and there, were mothers sitting. Not all, but most. We sat.

What kind of an example are we setting as we sit? What kind of role models are we? Playing and running around is for kids. Adults sit. Oh sometimes the adults exercise, but that is the time for the child to leave the adults alone so they can do the all important EXERCISE. Exercise is something adults have to do, not so much something that is fun to do. Something they have to do to make up for all the time adults spend sitting. Running around a park and having fun, that’s what kids do.

But then I noticed kids sitting all in a row, 6 or 8 of them. And what were they doing? Watching. Watching some adults play tug of war!

Later we did stop sitting, we joined our children in a game of jumping off a tall wall, one by one, two by two and four by four. That was exercise and a whole lot of fun.


Independence Day!

This afternoon I met with a friend in Cadman Plaza park and our children played. For the first time we sat, while they played, and stayed sitting!  No chasing the toddlers, no refereeing toys, no mamas hovering. We sat and we talked and we sat and we talked, full conversations without being interrupted by either or our children. It was amazing. So amazing that we even did pushups, two sets in between talking about the challenges of feeding toddlers! They are becoming independent and we are gaining more freedom, at least to converse and do a set or two of pushups.